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<h1 style="text-align: center;">Critiquing Mainstream Dating Advice Culture</h1>
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<p>It’s been a while since I’ve looked at the mainstream media’s attempt at dating advice, always to women – it’s like a thousand copies of Cosmo coming from all directions with bad advice and the inability to take any responsibility. Today they had some quotes from girls hamsters, on what was the moment they realized that he, wasn’t the “One”. Here’s a few of my favorite, and I’ll comment further on. “He licked his knife in a restaurant.” –Maureen from Facebook. “He told me he cheats at Euchre (a simple card game). Oh, he’s a college professor.” –lafriedland. “I learned he kept his peanut butter in the ‘fridge!” –Kristina from Facebook. Poor princesses. Oh how the hamster must have spun to come up with these. Really? These were the things that made you realize he’s not the one. Two things here. One, if you’re telling the truth, displays the modern phenomenon of the princess and prince charming syndrome – this isn’t having your expectations too high, this is completely ridiculous. These are inconsequential and leads me to believe, like most things spun from the hamster wheel, that these were perfectly ‘normal’ men, meaning betas – that just didn’t tingle <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Germany-dating-service.html?gender=female">these single girls</a> – but because there was no good logical reason to break up with them, or feel that they aren’t attracted to them, came up with these lame excuses. <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/05/18/is-dating-the-worst/" rel="dofollow">Such rationalizations</a> are common in modern dating psychology.</p>
<h2>Lame Excuses and Rationalizations</h2>
<p>There’s more at the article, you can find at the end of this post, some more believable, some even I could say almost logical. However, they all fall into the category of rationalizations. Some more tripe for you to force down: “He said he was spiritual but didn’t believe stories in the Bible.” –Mae from Facebook. “He asked me to pay for dinner, after picking the most expensive place to take me.” –Melissa from Facebook. Of course the clincher at the end is whoever the girl is who put together this garbage: “Can you imagine? I grew up in the South, where we have a saying: ‘Fish, or cut bait.’ That is, sometimes quitting and moving on is the best option. Way to cut those guys loose, women! And if you have a story of your own, add it to the mix!” <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/09/14/how-to-be-what-women-want/" rel="dofollow">Expectations vs realities</a> often clash in advice columns.</p>
<h2>Taking Responsibility vs Making Excuses</h2>
<p>Oh yes, what a bunch of losers these guys are. I’m not saying they aren’t losers, but even if they were, the above alone are not subject to being labelled losers or dregs of dating society like these single girl power catty bitches proclaim in the safe confines of the sisterhood. No these aren’t reasonable excuses. Rationalizations are one thing, men can rationalize too, but <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Germany-dating-service.html?gender=male">most single men</a>, when facing challenges in relationships or dating do one of two things. They just give up, or they look inward to find what’s not working for them and they make changes to their behaviour, they take responsibility. Something to which modern women seem incapable of. Lo and behold the future spinsters as one day when they’re stroking their… uhm, cats, alone… they think back and wonder why they gave up on these guys when the male attention suddenly stops coming. <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/05/10/5-things-that-make-you-beta-in-a-relationship/" rel="dofollow">Men taking responsibility</a> is a vital step.</p>
<p>The whole article can be found <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com">here</a>.</p>